Hey, my kinky, poly peeps! Welcome back! Like me, the news cycle never stops, so let’s get right to it.
First comes an article from Vice on how to discuss your kinks with your vanilla partner. If you’re someone who’s interested in kink, but doesn’t know just what to say, this article is for you. It’s always a touchy subject and the fear of rejection can be high. Just remember that there’s no greater pleasure than living as your authentic self.
“‘When a fantasy is discovered, it can become a source of conflict and misunderstanding within a relationship and even be destructive,’ Tang said. She explained that stumbling into your partner’s porn cache or finding their profile on a kinky social networking site could bring with it a sense of betrayal, as opposed to a partner proactively discussing the fantasy.”
Second, from one our best sources, Psychology Today, comes an article with how to deal with New Relationship Energy, or NRE. As someone who’s gone through it twice, I will tell you it’s one HELL of a drug, and you have to be very careful not to neglect your existing partners while you’re navigating it.
“New love is magical if you’re the person experiencing it. For the other people around—the people who have to sit patiently while you text your new boo under the table, who’ve had lunch plans canceled five times in a row in favor of an impulse date, who’ve sat through the millionth “do you think she likes me as much as I like her” conversation in a day—it might not be quite so charming.”
We’ve got a great blog entry on how to properly negotiate a BDSM scene coming up (courtesy of Bunny), so stay tuned and, as always, stay kinky, my friends…
–The Bratty Cat