Hey, my kinky, poly peeps! It feels great to get back on track here at the The Bratty Cat. As a submissive masochist, I’m always one who wants to have several irons in the fire, so juggling priorities can be rough. It makes me happy when I get in a groove and the words just magically start flowing onto the page again.
This week we have a pair of great articles. First, from Marie Claire comes a day in the life of a Pro-Domme. Poly Mom recently got back into Pro-Domme work and asked me to act as her bodyguard for a meeting with a potential client. I told her: “I’m a submissive masochist. You realize that not only can’t I fight, but I ENJOY getting beat up, right?”
“Does Ferguson enjoy being a Dominatrix? Yep – as she says, she loves her job. “I adore the sense of empowerment, enjoyment and, of course, money that it brings,” she shares. “However, it does also come with an unnecessary and outdated stigma; people think we don’t have real jobs and sex workers are surrounded by a really negative stereotype, despite this being the oldest industry in the world,” she continues.”
Second, from Well + Good comes a discussion about compersion. Compersion is a hot topic in the poly community because it’s so poorly defined. Under it’s strictest definion, it means “Getting satisfaction from your partner’s sexual intimacy with another person”. The article discusses “romantic compersion” which is “Getting satisfaction from your partner’s romantic relationships.” Personally, I like the broadest definition possible, which is “Being happy that your partner is happy.” When you stop to think about it, isn’t that what relationships are all about? Wanting someone you love to be happy?
“For polyamorous couples, compersion extends to joy felt when one’s partner experiences joy with another lover. Polyamory resources can sometimes frame compersion as an aspirational emotion individuals must work toward feeling, but many folks are naturally inclined toward compersion, which can serve as indication that a polyamorous relationship structure could work well for you.”
That’s it for this week. Stay tuned for our next blog post on… something poly-related. I got a couple ideas in the hopper, and I’ll be honest, it’s gonna come down to how motivated I am this weekend. I have a play party with Panda and Penguin on Saturday night, so the answer will probably be “not very”….
Unitl next time, stay kinky, my friends…
–The Bratty Cat