News Update – April 22

Hey, my kinky, polyam peeps! Happy Friday! Panda and I are heading out to Pittsburgh this weekend since our nephew is turning thirteen. His birthday party is at Dave & Busters, so I’ll be spending most of Saturday playing first person-shooters listening to him tell me how bad my aim is with a rail gun. We’ve got a pair of polyam articles this week, so let’s get rolling!

First, from the United Kingdom, comes a discussion about how the Covid-19 pandemic has fueled a rise in couples exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy. I was talking about this with Vixen and her nesting partner during our Date Night. I don’t care how big a fan of monogamy you are, it was never designed for two people to be locked in a house together for months at a time without outside socialization. While ethical non-monogamy is not a cure for a failing marriage, I mean, I guess it’s better than cheating?

“Many of us tried to get rid of the dreariness by getting into puzzles or going on long, ambling walks around the park. But for others, more drastic action was needed: namely, opening up a relationship. As a result, the number of Brits considering open marriages has soared by 45%, according to sex therapist Dr Tammy Nelson, who reports a dramatic rise in calls, emails, and appointment bookings from bored married couples looking for guidance on open relationships.”

Second, from Psychology Today, we look at the demographics of Polyamory in America. The “Five and Twenty” figure gets thrown around a lot, even here on this blog (Roughly 5% of all Americans consider themselves polyamorous and 20% have experimented with ethical non-monogamy at some point in there lives), but where does that data come from. According to Dr. Ritch Savin-Williams of Cornell Unversity: Nowehere. Dr. Savin-Williams argues that, while polyamory currently exists in America, there isn’t sufficient research to accurately measure it’s scope, and what research exists can be unintentionally misleading.

“Having a personal ‘ideal’ to be in a non-monogamous relationship (think young horny males) is not the same as having an actual non-monogamous relationship. Furthermore, having a non-monogamous relationship (e.g., being in an open relationship or having serial relationships) is not the same as having a polyamorous relationship (i.e., consensual, committed relationship with two or more individuals).”

So, there’s your “polyam homework” for this week. I will be back soon with an upcoming article on honorifics, so stay tuned!

Until then, stay kinky, my friends…

–The Bratty Cat

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