Hey, my kinky, poly peeps! Sorry for such a delay in this week’s news update. Despite the fact that roughly 5 million Americans practice BDSM and 10 million Americans practice polyamory, sometimes there isn’t much out there in the way of current events. Still, I think I found a good pair of articles for ya.
First, from LitHub comes a discussion about foot fetishes. This isn’t my kink, yet, I’ve always been fascinated by the science arountd it. As Bunny explained to me, docotor’s still aren’t entirely sure why some people are attracted to feet, but the popular theory is that the neurons in the brain associated with pleasure sit right next to the ones that control the feet, and occassionaly electrical signals get crossed.
“Ramachandran offers one reason that feet might be a common target of ardor: the part of the brain that receives signals of podiatric touch is right next to the part receives genital stimulation. ‘Maybe even many of us so-called normal people have a bit of cross-wiring,’ he wrote in his 1999 book Phantoms in the Brain: Probing the Mysteries of the Human Mind, ‘which would explain why we like to have our toes sucked’.”
Second, from Men’s Health comes a primer on safe words. It’s a simple, yet incredibly important topic. As I mentioned in my piece on negotiations, safe words should always be discussed before hand and ignoring them is a HUGE red flag.
“You can use your safe word any time you want to stop or take a break,” O’Reilly says. “Simply utter your safe word and play should stop. You can then talk about how you’re feeling, what you want, or changes you’d like to make in order to keep playing—or opt to stop playing altogether.”
That’s it for this week. I have a great piece on couple’s privilege coming up, so make sure to stay tuned!
Until next time, stay kinky, my friends…
–The Bratty Cat