Hey, my Kinky, Polyam peeps and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Hopefully 2023 brings you and yours all that brings you happiness and joy. I’m VERY excited for the next twelve months because, while I don’t know what it holds in store for The Bratty Cat, I do know that if I fail, I will fail enjoyably.
Without further ado, let’s get on to this week’s news.
First, from one of my favorite sources, Psychology Today, comes a discussion about how Millenials and Gen Z are increasingly adopting consensual nonmonogamy as a way of coping with a world they see as increasingly unstable. As someone in their early forties, and therefore a “Geriatric Millenial”, I understand the concept, and I think the reasoning is backwards. While the article states that young people embrace polyamory because they’ve given up hope for stability, I would argue it’s just the opposite. Polyamory has created such a strong emotional safety net for me that, because of all this uncertainty, I have many people to fall back on in times of trouble instead of just one monogamous partner.
“Even if they desire it, that kind of fairytale family life seems unattainable to many younger people. Choosing a relationship style that flexes with their changing circumstances makes a lot of sense for millennials and zoomers, and the various forms of consensual nonmonogamies offer exactly that.”
Second, from Rebellious Magazine, is a warning to those who might be thinking about Polyamory. We talk so much about Polyamory and Consensual Nonmonogamy in the same breath that it’s easy to forget that they’re two different things, or more specifically, one encompasses the other. While polyamory can be a workable relationship style for many, it’s not for everyone, and Rebellious offers some alternatives that might be a better fit.
“In polyamorous circles, there can be an air of superiority over those who choose monogamy. A belief that polyamorous folks are somehow more enlightened for having escaped the trap of monogamy. But this misses the point, which is that how you do relationships should be a choice. And, to me, understanding that you have a choice is where any sort of ‘relationship enlightenment’ starts.”
That does it for this week. Stay tuned for next week’s blog piece. I won’t ruin the surprise, and I will say it’s got me… “dripping” with excitement…
Until next time, stay kinky, my friends…
–The Bratty Cat