“Words like violence, break the silence Come crashing in, into my little world Painful to me, pierce right through me Can’t you understand, oh, my little girl?” –Depeche Mode, “Enjoy the Silence” First off, let me apologize for the delay in this blog entry. After a great pre-Thanksgiving week, it’s been a rough couple daysContinue reading ““I’m Just a Girl, Standing in Front of a Boy, Asking for Enthusiastic Positive Consent””
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Men Need Not Apply – Women and Submission
“Well I guess what they say is true, I could never be the right kind of girl for you. I could never be your woman…” –White Town, “Your Woman” Hey, my kinky, polyam peeps! While Covid isn’t gone (and I get the feeling we’re still gonna be dealing with it for quite some time), itContinue reading “Men Need Not Apply – Women and Submission”
The Wide World of ENM – Where Do You Fit in?
“There’s a rose in the fisted glove And the eagle flies with the dove And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with. –Stephen Stills, “Love the One You’re With” Hey my kinky, polyam peeps! It has been an amazing couple of days here at The Bratty Cat.Continue reading “The Wide World of ENM – Where Do You Fit in?”
What Becomes of the Broken-Hearted – Break-ups in the Poly Community
“I’m writing a song all about you A true song as real as my tears But you’ve no need to fear it, ’cause no one will hear it Sad songs and waltzes aren’t selling this year… –Willie Nelson, “Sad Songs and Waltzes” So, before I go any further, I do want to say “Thank You”Continue reading “What Becomes of the Broken-Hearted – Break-ups in the Poly Community”
Masculinity and Submission – How You Can Still Be on Top While Being the Bottom
“I don’t know where the sunbeams end and the starlight begins, it’s all a mystery. And I don’t know how a man decides what’s right for his own life, it’s all a mystery. –The Flaming Lips, “Fight Test” When I look back at how my life has played out so far, I will tell youContinue reading “Masculinity and Submission – How You Can Still Be on Top While Being the Bottom”
Hierarchies – The Good, the Bad, and the Toxic
You gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure. Cruel to be kind, it’s a very good sign. Cruel to be kind, means that I love you, baby. You’ve gotta be cruel to be kind. –Nick Lowe, “Cruel to be Kind” Welcome back, my Polyam Peeps! I wanted to say first, thank youContinue reading “Hierarchies – The Good, the Bad, and the Toxic”
RACK it up! I’ll take it!!!
“Sometimes I’m tired, sometimes I’m shot. Sometimes I don’t know how much more I got. Maybe I’m headed over the hill, maybe I’ve set myself up for the kill.” –Billy Joel, “I Go to Extremes” As someone with Autism, I tend to get fixated on a subject and will go on and on unless someoneContinue reading “RACK it up! I’ll take it!!!”
Unicorn Hunting 201
“Every time I think of you I feel a shot right through with a bolt of blue. It’ no problem of mine, but it’s a problem I find, living a life that I can’t leave behind.” –New Order, “Bizarre Love Triangle” So, apologies in the delay with this update. I was telling Vixen’s husband theContinue reading “Unicorn Hunting 201”
Poly Math: When You, Her, and Me Make Two and a Half
“People tell me ‘Ben, just make up junk and turn it in.’ But I never was alright with turning in a bunch of shit. Don’t like wasting time on music that won’t make you proud. But now I’ve found a reason to sit right down and shit some out.” –Ben Folds, “One Down” People thinkContinue reading “Poly Math: When You, Her, and Me Make Two and a Half”
The Author of All My Pain
Now I know that there’s a time and there’s a place where I can choose to walk the fine line between self-control and self-abuse.” –Bare Naked Ladies, “Alcohol” Before I started this website, I used to write content for a kink-friendly podcast on YouTube (leaving that podcast was actually a huge factor in my decisionContinue reading “The Author of All My Pain”